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» A message from Anonymous:

REALLY getting sick of CSers separating young Bae from Neal. THEY ARE THE SAME FRICKING PERSON. You can't just cut out the parts of a person that you don't like and pretend that it never happen-... oh... wait. We're talking about CSers. Infamous FOR ignoring what they don't like and over-glorifying what they do. If you don't like Neal, you don't like Bae, and I have, like, little to no patience for your shiz because Nealfire is a precious baby unicorn that DESERVED a happy ending. End of topic.
anti-captain-swan:

sheerlust:

holygoodwin:

Can everyone just take a moment to read this?

You just invalidated so many people’s experience with rape, assault and harassment. Rape isn’t the only part of rape culture.
This is disgusting.
Please take this out of the SQ tag and refrain from telling people who many have been raped, or friends who were raped, and Hook’s behavior supports the attitudes leading to those experiences. Do you even understand what you’re saying here? We do know what rape is. Maybe you need to do some more research and try understanding that behavior like Hook’s reenforces attitudes that lead to our experiences. That kind of behavior leads to rape all the time. This happens to real people who matter. Hook’s way of “winning” Emma was to do good things and look for her attention constantly and to always shove his feelings in her face when she had a lot of shit going on - like trying to save her son who kidnapped by a psychopath. She said no, she said it was a one time thing, she said she wouldn’t kiss him, she has pushed him away, she has acted bored or disgusted by his comments. All of these things say no. The Emma from season wouldn’t put up with this. Like when Emma pushed Graham off of her & told him he was out of line. Like when Emma was in NY and kicked him & had him arrested for assaulting her. He has even made RAPE THREATS and Hook even said his tactic is getting women drunk. That is rape. Getting women drunk, when alcohol affects your state of mind therefore your ability to consent. RAPE.
How dare you.
How dare you tell us we don’t understand the anger and the dear and everything. The PTSD? The depression? Paranoia? That this character is triggering for so many people. You think we do this because we don’t like your ship? Well you’re right. We don’t. Because he represents the attitudes rapists have. Even if he weren’t a rapist, his behavior supports rapists and people will think this behavior is okay.

Just because you are personally not triggerd by something doesn’t mean no one else is allowed to.
I have had people in my askbox telling me Hook’s behaviours triggered them, wether they had been victim of sexual assault, harassment or stalking. Are you gonna tell me that they are not allowed to feel that way because you weren’t triggered? How insensitive is that? You’re accusing people of using lightly those words for the sake of a ship while you’re completely dismissing the trauma they’ve been through for the sake of a fictional character.
PS: Damon Salvatore is a canon rapist. He compelled Caroline and abused her; she was in no position to give consent after she was compelled. He did rape her so, use better arguments next time.

anti-captain-swan:

sheerlust:

holygoodwin:

Can everyone just take a moment to read this?

You just invalidated so many people’s experience with rape, assault and harassment. Rape isn’t the only part of rape culture.

This is disgusting.

Please take this out of the SQ tag and refrain from telling people who many have been raped, or friends who were raped, and Hook’s behavior supports the attitudes leading to those experiences. Do you even understand what you’re saying here? We do know what rape is. Maybe you need to do some more research and try understanding that behavior like Hook’s reenforces attitudes that lead to our experiences. That kind of behavior leads to rape all the time. This happens to real people who matter. Hook’s way of “winning” Emma was to do good things and look for her attention constantly and to always shove his feelings in her face when she had a lot of shit going on - like trying to save her son who kidnapped by a psychopath. She said no, she said it was a one time thing, she said she wouldn’t kiss him, she has pushed him away, she has acted bored or disgusted by his comments. All of these things say no. The Emma from season wouldn’t put up with this. Like when Emma pushed Graham off of her & told him he was out of line. Like when Emma was in NY and kicked him & had him arrested for assaulting her. He has even made RAPE THREATS and Hook even said his tactic is getting women drunk. That is rape. Getting women drunk, when alcohol affects your state of mind therefore your ability to consent. RAPE.

How dare you.

How dare you tell us we don’t understand the anger and the dear and everything. The PTSD? The depression? Paranoia? That this character is triggering for so many people. You think we do this because we don’t like your ship? Well you’re right. We don’t. Because he represents the attitudes rapists have. Even if he weren’t a rapist, his behavior supports rapists and people will think this behavior is okay.

Just because you are personally not triggerd by something doesn’t mean no one else is allowed to.

I have had people in my askbox telling me Hook’s behaviours triggered them, wether they had been victim of sexual assault, harassment or stalking. Are you gonna tell me that they are not allowed to feel that way because you weren’t triggered? How insensitive is that? You’re accusing people of using lightly those words for the sake of a ship while you’re completely dismissing the trauma they’ve been through for the sake of a fictional character.

PS: Damon Salvatore is a canon rapist. He compelled Caroline and abused her; she was in no position to give consent after she was compelled. He did rape her so, use better arguments next time.

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I literally saw someone defend Hook trying to kill Belle with "it doesn't count, he didn't actually kill her." He's not a better person because his murder attempt was botched. He's just terrible AND incompetent.

anti-captain-swan:

Let’s analyse the situation shall we?

Option 1. He aimed to kill her and missed. It has been preiously established that he does not know what a gun is and barely knows how to use it. Is it really far streched to think he meant to kill her and missed? I don’t think so.

Option 2. He meant to make her cross the line. Because ripping the memories of a person is sooooo much better than trying to kill them.

Option 3. He aimed to hurt and her crossing the like was a lucky consequences.

Either way, he shot a woman in the back because of her relationship with his enemy and gloated about it afterwards.

How can you defend that?

//Anti Captain Swan shippers are literally the only sane people in the ONCE fandom…and the only people in the fandom that I even have the patience to tolerate…

die-wilde-13:

becausetreasons:

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Wow, the privilege in this post. It actually uses the phrase “you people”. I mean, if you’re totally cool with female characters being injured and raped and killed so that men can feel bad about it then there isn’t really much I can say. I can point out that the…

I wasn’t going to get into this but I figure since I won’t be bothering with Chicago Fire much longer I might as well get some last thought off my chest.

Sorry for highacking the conversation and for the length.

"They didn’t do this to spit in the face of the LGBT Community."

"The character wasn’t killed off because she was a lesbian."

Why isn’t it interesting that you don’t want “words put in your mouth” but don’t heitate to do so yourself?

Hardly anybody I’ve seen suggested the writers are a bunch of homopobes you have an agenda against gay people. What people are saying is that they killed off Shay without any regards for the impact she had on a seriously underrepresented community.

That they killed her with no regards to the fact that “killing off the lesbian” is done to such a high percentage that it as become a well known TV trope see Dead Lesbian Syndrom.

They may not have killed Shay with hateful intentions but they didn’t even consider the crushing impact this death has on the LGBT community.

what the fuck does that matter

The level of ignorance in this is truly astounding…

I don’t know, maybe it matters because the LGBT* community still at a higher risk of suicide and depression due to the heteronormative, hostile society we live in. A society that has been proven to change and progress through things like increased representation in the media for example.See HERE, HERE, HERE or HERE

But who cares, right? As long as you and all the other people who’s lives don’t depend on society improving enjoy the “drama” of the show. How very rude of those who’s lives are impacted to speak up.

Or maybe it matters because as of last year, only 3.3% of all TV regulars were LGBT characters. Out of those maybe half were women. In numbers that means we had a total of maybe 13! LGBT women on TV last year compared to 329 straigt women and 440 straight males.

You say that "Some characters are used as plot devices and it sucks, but it happens."? Well funny how there are barely a dozen LGBT* women on TV in a the past few years and I can still easily come up with half a dozen who have died recently. According to your “everybody is used as plot devices”, that would mean that approximately 160 straight female and 220 straight male characters would have died in recent years as well. Here’s a clue, they haven’t.

Also, I  struggle to find even one lesbian character that isn’t either dead or sleeping with a man or trying to have a family with him.

Is it possible for lesbians to die in an accident? Yes. Has there ever been a lesbian who slept with a man for whatever reason? Yes. Has there ever been a lesbian who tried to form a hetero family with her male best friend? Not sure, maybe.

But according to TV that is what happens with lesbians 99% of the time! It is almost as if there is a pattern of writers using LGBT* women as cheap plot devices instead of coming up with realistic stories about them.

"but as a writer, I completely understand the choice that was made."

And that is the problem, you are talking about issues you have absolutely no business talking about because in the end, those characters don’t matter to you! They don’t impact, improve or influence your life.

That doesn’t mean that they don’t mean everything to a whole bunch of other people so who are you to tell them that their opinion on matter directly affecting their life is somehow less valid???

I feel like no one actually read the original post and they’re just bitching to bitch so let’s break this down, shall we?

The post was created a response to all of the negativity in the Chicago Fire tag. Negativity that has used the words “homophobic” and “misogynistic” just because Shay was the one that was killed off. So when you start quoting:

"They didn’t do this to spit in the face of the LGBT Community."

"The character wasn’t killed off because she was a lesbian."

All you are actually doing is quoting what has been seen in the tags and that’s why the post was made. Because there is an uproar that the lesbian was killed off. Yes, she was and it was devastating, but that’s no reason to boycott the show or make big deal about her being a lesbian. Which is what people were doing, which was why the original post was made.

Now, this Dead Lesbian Trope, I hear you, and lesbians are underrepresented, but just because the woman that died happened to be a lesbian, shouldn’t be making people this furious. It affects the community and that matters but you’re taking a lot of what you are quoting out of context, so let me clarify something else.

That was in response to, “why should it matter that she was a lesbian”, which sounds harsh, but if you put it in context with the rest of the postyou would see that the argument was why is this the focus? The focus should be on Shay and what an amazing woman we just lost. Lauren left the show. A writing decision was made and the death had impact.

Characters are plot devices.

You know why? Because they are telling a story and I respect your opinions, I really do, and I know that it affected the LGBTQ community, but the fact that this has become a giant issue is what bugs more of us than just this few amount of people. It was a writing decision and that is really the end of it. You don’t have to agree with it, but it was not meant to be a hit to sexual orientation rights. Nowhere in the original post or in the responses has it been stated that the other opinions that differed weren’t valued so don’t you even dare.

If you want to have a discussion, have a discussion, don’t make accusations. Also, never assume what communities people are part of. That’s unnecessary and doesn’t further your argument at all. Writers make choices based on charactersand on story linesso don’t try to make this an argument about how the original opinion isn’t valid because of that because that makes you just as bad as what you’re pretending to be above.

So in short: all of the opinions are valid but I personally believe that the issue has been blown out of proportion just for the sake of people wanting to argue. I love Shay. I will miss Shay. We all will.

For the love of God though, if you’re going to make this big argument, don’t be condescending, especially when the original post was under a read more and you choseto start arguing about it. Being condescending has no place in discussion.

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becausetreasons:

becausetreasons:

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Wow, the privilege in this post. It actually uses the phrase “you people”. I mean, if you’re totally cool with female characters being injured and raped and killed so that men can feel bad about it then there isn’t really much I can say. I can point out that the…

Leslie Shay’s lesbianism was very much the reason she was considered expendable. Don’t for one minute try to pass off 2 seasons of having absolutely no idea what to do with her as having no connection to that. Television writers have proved time and time again that if they can’t turn a lesbian “straight”, which they tried oh so very hard to do at the end of season one with the whole playing house with Severide, they’ll kill her off. Saying that isn’t an issue, making a post to deny that that is exactly what is happening and thinking you know more about the trends in lesbian representation than all the lesbians venting their frustrations on tumblr is so insanely condescending that you deserved absolutely 100% of the attitude I gave you. It’s a hard truth, but if you’d look closer at everything that’s happened on the show you’d realize what’s going on

Actually no, the attitude was not needed at all. “You people” clearly meant fandom, and the opinion was an opinion—you didn’t need to jump on a high horse about it and start making accusations.

Tumblr as a whole tends to take things like this and turn it into a bigger issue. You say that they had no idea what to do with her character and I would argue against that. Shay is one of the favorite characters (both in and out of the show) and it’s not because she’s the lesbian, it’s because she has facets to her personality that people enjoy. She has flaws just like everybody else and she was treated like a person: she wasn’t used as “the lesbian”. It’s not like the things that she has done have never been done by lesbian females before and I understand why the LGBTQ community is upset about her death, but the majority of what I have seen about the episode is people getting made enough to boycott because they’re turning this into an issue about the lesbian dying when “the privileged white males” are still alive (that by the way is quoting more than a few posts in the ‘chicago fire’ tag).

Could they have written the character off a different way? Yes they could have, but Lauren chose to leave. She asked them to let her off of the show because she wanted to do other things. When writers are backed into a corner like that, they have choices to make: Shay was in the building, so why not kill her off? First responders die in accidents sometimes and accidents do not discriminate based on race, gender or sexual orientation.

So, the fact that people are turning this into a giant slap in the face of lesbians everywhere is actually really insulting to lesbians everywhere. What you are saying essentially, is that lesbians deserve special treatment because they are a minority group. Just because you have a minority group in your show doesn’t mean they get special treatment: they are people just like the rest of us. AND THIS IS COMING FROM A MINORITY. Writers write to write and while underrepresented in the media, shit happens and if that means it happens to the character that happens to be a lesbian, or black, or Asian, etc., then that is what happens. Lesbians are not represented the way we want them to be in media, no, but you also have to understand that that is because they are not as accepted as they should be either. Sexual orientation equality is still an issue, so the media still only shows so much of it. That blows, it really does, because like I said, they are people too, but having a character death come to a character of an actress that left doesn’t make the show a bad show.

Anyone who thinks that is really getting butt hurt for no reason whatsoever. We’re all going to miss Shay, but she didn’t get written off because she was “expendable” like you’re saying she was. She wasn’t expendable at all, they just had to work with what they were given and they did and it made an impact and that’s what matters.

So no, no your attitude was unjustified.

T-Swift’s new single is perfect in every way and I’ve already had like eight reasons today to use it…

I joined the RP community on Tumblr as an escape and just found a bunch of entitled brats with a few nice and actually decent people scattered throughout it. Is that just how this site works in general?

tired-and-uninspireddddd:

People mistake your chest as breathing when you’re really suffocating.

tired-and-uninspireddddd:

People mistake your chest as breathing when you’re really suffocating.

unclefather:

how to kiss a boy

  1. grab his waist
  2. slip your hand in his pocket
  3. steal his wallet
  4. dont even kiss him
  5. just run

I log in for the first time in like three months and remember part of why I peaced out: there’s Delena and Captain Swan happening for some reason on my dash. Fuck. That. No. Thank. You. Maybe the point of a fresh start on this blog is unfollowing a bunch of people…